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The only reason I’m kind of elaborating is so that you don’t think I’m some horrible person who goes around intentionally stereotyping people. Also perhaps so that you know that not everyone intentionally has such stereotypes, but there are an awful lot of scary cases out there that shove them into your mind even if you’re trying to avoid them. It doesn’t make it right, but it happens.

I get so immersed in situations like this that I guess I forget that there are good, caring mothers like you out there. Maybe you didn’t intend to have your daughters right when you did, but you obviously love them and would do anything for them. I get so angry with the mothers of some of “my kids” (who I’m rather protective of even if they aren’t really mine) for hurting their precious children that it causes me to generalize. So thanks for reminding me, even if I’m just some random person out in cyberspace de-lurking long enough to leave an absurdly long comment in your blog. I really appreciate it.

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]]> by: heatherk http://parentingwithoutalicense.com/2007/09/08/ortho-and-depo-or-how-i-met-my-daughters/#comment-3 Thu, 13 Sep 2007 13:49:21 +0000 http://parentingwithoutalicense.com/2007/09/08/ortho-and-depo-or-how-i-met-my-daughters/#comment-3 Okay okay okay i hold my hands up.I was a judger of 'our and other multiple babies by different partners solo/single mums'morals. But after reading yours and Kates stories I just think how easily it could have been me - in fact it still could be. I hope to be less judgmental in the future. God damn the catholic church and its guilty complex :) Okay okay okay i hold my hands up.I was a judger of ‘our and other multiple babies by different partners solo/single mums’morals. But after reading yours and Kates stories I just think how easily it could have been me - in fact it still could be. I hope to be less judgmental in the future. God damn the catholic church and its guilty complex :)

]]> by: jeanie http://parentingwithoutalicense.com/2007/09/08/ortho-and-depo-or-how-i-met-my-daughters/#comment-2 Wed, 12 Sep 2007 03:31:38 +0000 http://parentingwithoutalicense.com/2007/09/08/ortho-and-depo-or-how-i-met-my-daughters/#comment-2 ha ha ha to your last comment. Having been on solo parenting messageboards (as a sanity preserver) for many years, I know that for every situation there is a new story - and the important factor is not the hows or whys or wherefores - it is about the "where to from here" and the child and mother - in most cases that I know, the proof is in the pudding - there are lots of lovely solo families! ha ha ha to your last comment.

Having been on solo parenting messageboards (as a sanity preserver) for many years, I know that for every situation there is a new story - and the important factor is not the hows or whys or wherefores - it is about the “where to from here” and the child and mother - in most cases that I know, the proof is in the pudding - there are lots of lovely solo families!

]]> by: Kate http://parentingwithoutalicense.com/2007/09/08/ortho-and-depo-or-how-i-met-my-daughters/#comment-1 Sun, 09 Sep 2007 20:26:28 +0000 http://parentingwithoutalicense.com/2007/09/08/ortho-and-depo-or-how-i-met-my-daughters/#comment-1 It amazes me that there are quite a few similarities in our stories, especially with our first borns. Im wondering how the arrival of my third will be taken, I think its paternal side of the family may shower it in gifts (especially if its a girl!!) but I think the rest of the world still thinks I can't keep my legs crossed!! It amazes me that there are quite a few similarities in our stories, especially with our first borns.
Im wondering how the arrival of my third will be taken, I think its paternal side of the family may shower it in gifts (especially if its a girl!!) but I think the rest of the world still thinks I can’t keep my legs crossed!!

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