Wondering Down Memory Lane
The Man I Didn’t Marry is on Facebook. I wasn’t looking for him, I swear. He just showed up on my news feed as the friend of a friend. I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised by this; I knew that we had old friends in common. I just didn’t expect that we’d, you know, have friends in common.
I couldn’t resist clicking on his profile, which turned out to be public. There’s a picture–he looks the same–and a bit of information but not much. He owns his own antique store now and I’m glad. That was always a dream for him. The personal info, though, the stuff you really look up people on Facebook for, is sadly lacking.
I heard he got married and had a daughter, but there’s no mention of that here. Not that that means anything, of course. But I want to know. I wanted to click on his page and see the evidence of his happy life. That it’s not there makes me wonder.
In the normal course of Facebook events, I’d add him as a friend, or maybe send a message. But this situation falls a bit outside of the boundaries of normal. This isn’t my third grade crush or my high school boyfriend; this is the man I all but left at the altar. Somehow, a random “poke” out of the blue seems, I don’t know, a bit tacky.
Other than some nostalgia around my “unniversary,” I haven’t thought much about this man for the past ten years, but tonight as I sit here in a livingroom filled with furniture he didn’t help pick out, surrounded by children who are not his, I find myself wondering about him. Is it a good life? Is he happy? Is he wondering the same things about me?
Comment by Sarah
um. Yeah. I actually know how you feel here. Only I did more than just poke, I called his ass.
Posted on October 14, 2007 at 9:53 am
Comment by Jenny
lol, all these sites are a bad idea, theres a reason I dont see people from my past!
Posted on October 14, 2007 at 9:54 am
Comment by Thordora
I say, send him a message. It’s been ten years. People grow. And you’re curious about his HAPPINESS, not curious about if his life sucks like the rest of us tend to be with old friends on Facebook.
If he doesn’t reply, no harm, no foul. You’re both adults after all.
Posted on October 14, 2007 at 9:55 am
Comment by Dixie
There is always that one that you wonder about. Especially when things are going good you wonder hope he is happy. Saw a fairly recent picture of my”one” and he looked so sad. It just broke my heart. I will never try to contact because I am married but I heard thru the grapevine he made some bad relationship choices and it bums me out that he hasn’t found someone that sees in him what I saw. Does that make sense?
Posted on October 14, 2007 at 9:33 pm