In Which I Feel Like A Bit Of A Heel
I finally posted my notice over at iVillage. With a little more than two weeks to go until I’m no longer an unwilling participant at The Daily Mom, I figured Thanksgiving was a perfectly symbolic time to inform whatever readers are left over there that I was abandoning ship leaving (and take the opportunity to direct them over here, of course).
I worked really hard on that post, searching for just the right tone that would make my disgust with the whole situation clear without being insulting or petty. I wasn’t willing to pretend that everything was copacetic, that I hadn’t been screwed over by iVillage, that I wasn’t angry about the way things went down and the way they’ve been since (oh, the stories I could tell!), but I was trying to keep the flamethrowers off of the bridge. I thought I’d done a pretty good job of it too, right down to editing out the part about my disgust with nasty judgmental rude “Funny” Mom being the main reason I was unwilling to play ball when the Daily Mom change went through. I wouldn’t have been happy regardless, but I probably would have gone along with it until the end of my contract without the added pressure of being forced into the same mold as Odious Mom. But I didn’t say any of that over there; instead, I kept it all about me and my dislike of being a team player. I was very diplomatic (well, for me I was!).
So why do I feel bad about that post today? Because Laurie, the other blogger, commented on my farewell. I have no issues with Laurie. I’ve read Embedded in the Burbs (which is a brilliant title, btw) and enjoyed it; it certainly never provoked the eyerolling and cringing the other blog did before I finally decided to be kind to myself and stop reading it. Laurie was very gracious in her comment, and even let drop that she wasn’t happy with the new format either. So why do I now feel like I’ve tarred her with the same brush and hurt her feelings by making it clear that I don’t want to be a part of the group? Probably because, even though I try, I’m still enough of a girl to worry that I was mean, that it wasn’t ok for me to express my displeasure at the situation at the risk of offending someone else.
So, Laurie, if you’re reading, it’s not you, it’s them her me.
Comment by Eden
I think the post over there was more about you, about how you had difficulty working as part of a collective.
And anyone who’s read those blogs knows where the trouble lies. It’s not just the “Funny” Mom blog but the commenters she has as well. Didn’t one of them accuse you of copying her topics? Next thing you know, you’ll be bragging about how wonderful you are for going through channels to adopt a baby while actively trying to get knocked up.
Laurie’s blog is fine. Maybe she can get away from the eVil collective as well. Unfortunately that collective — not your post — will paint all its bloggers w/ the same brush. I won’t go over there unless someone points me at something b/c I cannot stand to read “Funny” Mom. I don’t even like seeing her smarmy face on the main page.
/pms
Posted on November 26, 2007 at 10:50 am
Comment by Karen
I liked your post. But what I like better is the way you write over here.
Much much more you. And I like you.
Posted on November 26, 2007 at 1:05 pm
Comment by Cait
I heart you, Kimberly. I’m glad you got away from the evil collective.
Posted on November 26, 2007 at 2:44 pm
Comment by kittenpie
Well, I don’t know much about THAT whole situation, but I am eager to see get started over at MBT!
Posted on November 26, 2007 at 4:29 pm
Comment by SweetyPi
Hey. I’ve read your good bye over at eVil. I think you did a very classy thing by taking it as more of a it’s not “them” it’s me approach. I think you should listen to Eden more often and relize readers will see that it’s the collective that is giving that whole experience a rough touch. Not your goodbye.
Posted on November 26, 2007 at 4:39 pm
Comment by jenny
ah not-so-funny mom, the car crash blog you just have to read so see what crap she is spurting today…! Just think some people have to know her in reality!
Posted on November 27, 2007 at 7:27 am
Comment by Sophia (Adventures of Brown)
I thought your post at eVil (I like that!) was well written, eloquent & kind. I didn’t get the feeling that you were lumping anybody together nor did I get the hint that there was drama involved in your departure.
I’ve also noticed that there’s more comments on Parenting Without A License since your official announcment. Congrats!!
Posted on November 27, 2007 at 10:01 am
Comment by Sandi
At least iVillage didn’t take down your post and all your previous posts like they did to Grrrl Genius.
Posted on November 27, 2007 at 12:09 pm
Comment by Kimberly
Well, let’s wait until December 8 until we give them credit for that.
Posted on November 27, 2007 at 2:15 pm
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